'" "I think the weirdest thing for me isn't the judgment of other people (since I just pass for straight), but the idea of what could have been.Just before I met my current dude (4.5 years and counting), I was trading messages with a gorgeous lady vegan baker.Lesbians often do not think that I am gay enough or that I am pretending, or see my current relationship as me hiding my true self to blend in. I think, based on our conversations together, that he gets remarks like these more often than I do.Our sexuality as a couple, too, has been made into a fetish by straight folks thinking that our relationship is a gateway to their forays with threesomes." "I reference ex-girlfriends in conversation when relevant, which is one way to address [invisibility] I guess.' And he said, ' Since you're asking, I'm assuming the answer isn't straight.' We had a great conversation about what being bisexual means, perceptions of it in both straight and gay culture, and what it means for me personally.
One of the reasons I waited so long was that as a fly-on-the-wall 'straight' woman, I heard so much bullshit against bi people from other queer folks that I felt completely unwelcome in the queer community. Now we understand one another.'" "I actually just came out to my youngest son a few weeks ago.
But on the other side of the coin, it makes me sad that I even need to hide or worry about these things." "I have avoided telling my queer friends that I am in a relationship with a man.
It's like coming out all over again and I've experienced resistance against it.
I also started to realize that strict monogamy may not be the best idea for me.
I would very much like to be able to love more than one person, but my husband is and wants us to remain strictly monogamous. I think my parents would accept my bisexuality, especially since I'm married to a man and therefore not actually dating women, but they're still busy processing the fact that I'm not Christian.